Why is it so hard… to stop being so hard on yourself?

Let’s get real: figuring out how to stop beating yourself up is just plain hard sometimes.

In fact, it’s one of the number one things that my readers struggle with. I hear statements like this all the time:

“Oh, I’m so hard on myself. So quick to judge me. How do you get out of that? It’s a lifelong struggle. I can show extravagant grace to others, (my abusers even) but not to myself. My mind thinks my heart doesn’t deserve it.”

“I place far too much of my self-worth in other peoples’ hand – and I know it’s not the answer, but I don’t know how to get it back.”

“It is a daily struggle to push those comparing thoughts (I don’t think that’s a real phrase) out of my head.”

“It’s exhausting and I know I’m crazy but I can’t help it.”

“What adds to my distress about this is the constant barrage of a lot of self-development gurus, motivational  and positive living types, etc., that make me feel like everyone else has it altogether but somehow I missed the mark and I’m not enough.”

The thing is, we all deeply want to stop beating ourselves up.

We all want to know — with every cell of our being and with every breath we take — that we are enough. We want to feel a deep sense of self-worth and self-love that doesn’t rely on external criteria or validation from others.

And we don’t want to just know this intellectually — we want to actually believe it. We want to feel it deep within our souls.

How do we begin to do this, though?

How do we begin to overcome this daily struggle — the constant “Comparison-itis” — the negative self-talk that we constantly hear in our heads?

“[I once took an anxiety quiz] and the solution was to adopt a more positive outlook. No shit. If I knew how to do that, I wouldn’t be in this situation haha.”

How can we finally come to know that we are enough — not because we’re pretty or smart or successful or fill-in-the-blank, but simply because we are — simply because we exist and therefore possess inherent worth?

Introducing The Year of Enough Interview Series:

– A year’s worth of friendly, fun email reminders and uplifting quotes that will continually remind you of your inherent, unshakable worth and “enough-ness.”

– A year’s worth of interviews: heartfelt conversations with some of the wisest, kindest souls on the interwebs on what it means to be enough, have enough, and come from a place of worth and sufficiency in a world of “never enough.” 

– A year’s worth of corresponding “challenges”: begin living from a place of sufficiency and worth by completing corresponding challenges that will help you foster a sense of  worth and “enough-ness” in your own life.

Please check back at a later date for a free sample of the Year of Enough interviews. This site is currently in the process of being revamped!