The Most Important Career Advice You’ve Never Gotten

on March 25, 2013 | in Work | by

I can still remember that day with striking clarity. It was 2009 and I was sitting at my cubicle, wearing my go-to black slacks and gray sweater, wondering, as I did many-a-day, what it was that I was truly called to do.

And as I also did many-a-day, I was posting on Facebook.

“What is it that I can be the best in the world at?” I contemplated. (Actual Facebook posting below.)

Facebook posting

The actual Facebook posting from that day in the cube in 2009.


I sat at my desk, surrounded by my dual monitors, stacks of financial documents, and Krispy Kreme donuts (I mean, hey, a girl’s gotta eat), and I just knew that this wasn’t it.

This wasn’t my life. Corporate accounting — it wasn’t the thing I could be the best in the world at.

Now don’t get me wrong; I didn’t hate my job at all. In fact, my job and my life were pretty dang good, if I didn’t say so myself. And yet something tugged — no, pulled at me.

There was something more I was built to do. Someone more I was built to become, more of a life I was built to live. And I knew with everything within me that this wasn’t it.

But what was?

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You may have felt it too — that strange and powerful feeling that the greatest general of all time is living somewhere within you and is just waiting to come out, just waiting to be unleashed.

Fear not the strangeness you feel The future must enter you far before it happens. Just wait for the birth, for the new hour of clarity.

–  Maria Rainier Wilke

And you’ve probably been scared as hell, too — scared of wasting your life being someone you weren’t meant to be and doing something you were never meant to do.

You’d do this thing in a heartbeat… if you only knew what it was.

Enter the missing piece of the career puzzle.

See, standard career advice had taught me about two things and two things only: First, it had taught me tactics for getting a job and climbing my way to the top of the career ladder: I’d learned job resume secrets and interview techniques and tactics to climb the career ladder.

But I already had the good job and the good education. I already knew about the resume secrets and the interviewing techniques, the standard go-to career advice that most career experts pitch. I’d already learned how to climb my way to the top of the ladder if that was what I so desired to do. This wasn’t the career advice I deeply needed.

After all, what good does it do to climb to the top of the ladder if you get there only to realize that you were climbing the wrong ladder all along?

And second, it had taught me to assess my strengths and interests and to match them up with a desired career type. But I’d already read the books and taken the quizzes and assessed my strengths. I’d already browsed the career listings and thought hard about my options. (Sidenote: One of those career tests actually told me I should become a librarian. Ummm…)

This sort of advice was important, but it wasn’t enough on its own. There was something else missing. In fact, there was a gaping hole in the career arena. I’d consumed all the traditional career advice I could find, and yet I still had no idea how to bridge the gap between the life I was living and the life I desired to live. I still hadn’t a clue how to “figure it out” — how to ensure that I was climbing the right ladder instead of simply striving to climb to the top of any ladder at all.

And that, my friend, is the very reason The Unlost E-Course was born — out of a deep need and an incomplete model, and from a desire to serve.

Over the years, I’ve studied and interviewed and spoken with many-a-person who is deeply fulfilled with his or her work. I’ve read books and done research and navigated my own path.

And over the years, I’ve begun to connect the dots.

Through my research, I’ve come to find patterns among the stories of the people who were filled to the brim with their careers and their lives — patterns that helped provide the missing link in the career advice that’s currently available. The main tenets of this new philosophy hold that:

1. Finding your truest career path happens by doing, not just by thinking. How do we do effectively and efficiently, even if we already have a full time job? Through a process called E & E, or Experimentation and Evolution, which I’ll be teaching in detail throughout the course.

2. Finding your truest career path happens not by “figuring it all out,” but by being willing to not have it all figured out. The eventual clarity of the many people I spoke with almost always came from a place of confusion — but over a course of months and years, they found their way into fulfillment by using E & E principles and methods.

3. Finding your truest career path happens over time, not all at once. It is a process — one that we are all in, all of the time. The trick is in understanding the nature of this process, and that it is usually far from linear (and yet, we expect it to be).

Many of these tenets seem counter intuitive, and yet they’re supported by both anecdotal and scientific research (detailed within the course), as well as backed by own own personal experience on this path of finding my own way.

Which leads me to an announcement that I am excited and proud and knee-shaking scared to present: The pending release of the new and improved, better than ever, second round of The Unlost E-Course to Finding Your Truest Career & Life Path. On April 29th, 2013, this soon-to-be legendary course will open its doors for the second time, letting you in on the detailed secrets I’ve discovered.

And over the next month, I’ll be unveiling the entire first module of the course piece-by-piece, giving you a sneak peek inside the course content and into the brand new Unlost community. Yeah baby, you heard me right: I’m letting you in on the ENTIRE first module — a whole eighth of the course — right here on the blog. I may have gone crazy, but I think you’re gonna like it.

Watch Part I of the preview on “Internet shopping for careers” below, then leave me a comment letting me know whether YOU’VE experienced the “Internet shopping failure” of traditional career planning. With your comment, you’ll be eligible to win a FREE version of The Unlost E-Course (Move-lah or Standard version).


(^^Watch it!^^)

The best part?

Registration is already open.

And if you register for the course before 4/7, you’ll receive ALL THREE early bird bonuses below! Here’s the link to register:

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Instead of trying to cram through the front door, using methods of job search that just don’t work very well anymore, she’ll show you how to head around to the side window, flip open a step ladder, climb up and hoist yourself through.

This book is a must-read if you feel like keep losing at the same old job search game.


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  • Erin

    Wow – this is exactly how I feel! I am so tired of taking career selection tests that keep giving me the same standard boxed-in options. I know there has to be more out there, I’m just not sure what. So much of what you said resonates with me – how am I supposed to know what I want to do after college if I don’t have any experience trying different things out? I know I can’t be all alone – when you really think about it, the fact that we have to decide what we want to do ‘with the rest of our lives’ without even trying it out first is kind of crazy!

    • Heck yes it is, Erin! And ohhhh noooo, you are definitely not alone :)

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  • good news, unlost e-course strikes back! :)

  • Jessica

    So excited to have watched this and know that there are alternative solutions to making yourself career happy, other than following the advice of test that knows nothing about you! And also, who doesn’t love a fashion analogy?!

    • :) :) Who doesn’t, indeed? Thanks, Jessica :)

  • Rob Turquoise Parakeet

    I’m so proud to be a part of The Unlost team. You’ve clearly put so much time and effort into both producing an excellent e-course and also expertly marketing it. Well done, Therese! X

    • Thanks for all your important help, Turquoise Parakeet! x

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  • Wow. How true is that.

    Reminds me a little of this quote: “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Both speak to doing something we are not really meant to be doing.

    How many of us are stuck in the momentum of what we once thought was the right path, or the field our degree paid for us to be in, or what’s easy or habitual … never quite finding that thing that we would have been awesome at.

    • Yeah, it’s hard to shake that feeling once you’ve become aware of it…

  • Realist

    Unfortunately, most people will never be able to earn enough doing the things they love to do. Most jobs are boring and don’t pay well, but still need to be done by someone. If you can manage to earn a great salary doing a job you hate for 40-50 hours per week, consider yourself lucky.

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